How To Ditch Shame

Shame game folks, we go round and round until we begin to uproot and shift the deeply held beliefs that keep us in shame. Get out of the constant shame sh*t cycle with the following approach:
•️SURRENDER - shame is an emotion. See that it exists. Acknowledge it’s the result of significant relationships and attachments. Surrender the numbing and controlling and perfectionism and allow shame to surface so we can begin the work.
•‍♀️SOCIALIZATION - get in a group! Group therapy, friends, AA or eating disorders anonymous, and start to confront shame by not isolating! Shame loves isolation, fight with connection.
•SELF-DISCLOSURE - vulnerability is key. Shame wants you to feel alone, defective, broken, and like it’s all you. Open up. Share. Share with folks who have earned your trust. You aren’t alone!
•SENSITIVE - be cool to yourself. Become a self-care warrior. Meet your needs. Validate your feelings. Treat yourself right and get in therapy.
•SELF TALK - don’t be a butthole to yourself! Toxic shame is relentless, but you can wake up and fight back with “I belong, I am enough, I am worthy.”
•SURFACING - Therapy therapy therapy. Journal. Meditate. Visualization. Trauma work (with a therapist who is licensed).
•♥️SELF LOVE - I have an entire course on this topic of self love, perfectionism, self compassion, and healing shame! Make sure to check it out!
•SPIRITUALITY. John Bradshaw differentiates “healthy shame” from “toxic shame” (whereas Brene Brown says it’s guilt verses shame). He said “healthy shame” fosters spirituality because it lets us know we’re not god. It allows us to be imperfect and seek help. Spirituality can look like nature, living in line with your values, religion, ceremony, meditation, yoga, communication, chanting, service, seeking your purpose and not giving up!
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I’m here to help you sock it to toxic shame. I’ve got your back with tons of education here, on my podcast, newsletter, deeper education and tools in my online courses, and the most in depth 1:1 in my counseling practice. Pick your path my friends, let’s love ourselves! ♥️🧠