How Perfectionism and Shame Collide
We overcompensate where we are most vulnerable. We mask the parts of us that we think are unacceptable. We front and try to look perfect, when really we need authenticity and self-compassion.
Where’s your shame? What areas feel scary and vulnerable? Do you notice that’s where you wear a mask of perfection? Do you see anxiety and extra effort go where you’re most insecure? Where does your inner-child feel they need to be perfect?
Perhaps see perfectionism as a distraction from dealing with the emotions and beliefs surrounding that area. Allow yourself grace and compassion in this exploration because it’s tender. Don’t make being imperfect another thing to be perfect at, watch that shame monster when it masks itself as self-improvement. Start testing the waters of owning your humanness and being cool with ALL of you.
Acceptance is the name of the game here, by acknowledging and allowing for the messiness, you can really access self acceptance.⠀
Therapy and tacos for all,