Setting Boundaries Without Guilt
You don’t have to push yourself beyond your own limits because of guilt. You have permission to say no and not feel guilty.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Boundaries define your limits. You have the right to define your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual limits!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
How do you know what your limits are? Think about:
What makes you uncomfortable?
What makes you feel unsafe?
What’s in violation of your values?
That’s where you define YOUR limits. This may feel hard as you may find your boundaries differ from family, community, or the way you were raised. I support your right to have your own boundaries.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I often see resentment result when boundaries are continually violated. Resentment is a mix of anger & fear. We tend to experience resentment when we feel unappreciated or we think we’re being taken advantage of. You are NOT responsible for other peoples unrealistic expectations, emotions, thoughts, or behaviors.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We experience guilt when we think we’ve committed an offense (usually against expectations or values). I propose you question if the guilt is coming from YOUR true values or OTHERS’ expectations & other’s guilt trips.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Remember, you don’t have to push yourself beyond your own limits because of guilt. Resentment will usually manifest if we do.
Therapy and tacos for all,